There is an item that gives you double your health for 30 seconds?

only 500 g at the item shop, maybe better then a potion if in trouble

Couple of things jump out at me.

1. OP didn't know about gameplays.org, then the edit said his replay died early. (To go back more than the last played game isn't happening.) If playing multiple games a day, somehow I have trouble beliving that this game was your final one...

2. Most games he rage quits. ( Said it himself.)

3. How can he tell if the other team had full citadel upgrades?

I agree that you sound like someone who got beat...badly... and is trying to find some excuse as to why. The answer is simple.... You need to become a better player, and appologize.

Did you check the game settings before the match? Perhaps gold and xp income was set to high?

How I know this is that the devs told us this, and I've seen this with my own eyes. It helps to have played the previous games on the engine. Infact, in Supreme Commander, a timing issue in the sound engine(not the one used for Demigod) could cause a sound to be played a tenth of a second later, and that would desync the game. That's not even sim relevant information, and it desynced the game. Moreover, try it yourself.

1. Extract dgdata.zip to /dgdata

2. Rename dgdata.zip to dgdata1.zip

3. Rename /dgdata dgdata.zip

4. Go into the units and change some values in the .bp files.

5. Try playing online.

6. Watch and learn.

That is, if you can even get into the lobby. In order to get into the lobby even, you have to play with a friend who also followed these steps (not number 4 though, that defies the point). Then, the fact that you say Rook's Hammer Slam does 1,000,000,000 damage and he thinks it does 450 damage will instantly desync the game. The same will occur if you change your health, gold, any of those things. Anybody who knows or mods Supreme Commander will back me up on this.

What devs say and what hackers do are two completely different things.

This so much reminds me to the counter-strike days of old.

3 head shots in a row, and the whole server was crying cheater. Not one of them stopped to think about how ridiculous they sound. Sure .. CS had lots of cheaters as well, but the big majorty of these 'cheating' cases were simple people being owned by more skilled players.

The comment of the OP about how he has this many games under his belt and how he rarely lost any games tells me, that this might indeed be an ego problem, rather than a cheater problem.

Also, considering the P2P nature of the game, desync was my first thought after reading the story. Any modification that only happens on one of the clients should - in theory - desync the game. Hard to miss, considering the incredibly stupid modal dialog they used to warn the user about it.